Kick Your Climax Up a Notch With These Super Easy Tips
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For women, there’s a difference between the big, powerful, intense orgasms and the smaller, more frequent ones. And while you might enjoy deciphering between the two (and aiming for the former!), have you considered the different levels of pleasure that you, a man, might experience, too?
Male and female orgasms engage varying parts of your body, but one doesn’t outweigh the other, in every respect.
“The difference between male and female orgasm itself is that with women, orgasm is produced by direct stimulation of the clitoris or G-spot, felt and described as waves of pleasure throughout the body, and a series of contractions that are felt through the uterus, anus, cervix, and genitals at 0.8 seconds apart,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Marissa Nelson. “It takes the average women about 15 to 20 minutes to orgasm.”
As for the male orgasm, it involves “contractions of the PC muscles, anal, perineum and penis, and the feeling of pumping and/or throbbing, takes the average man three to five minutes to achieve orgasm, and the sensation of ejaculation can heighten orgasm,” she adds. “[It’s] Important to remember that ejaculation and orgasm are two separate events, as a guy can have an orgasm without ejaculating.”
So how do you truly enhance the male orgasm to be even better for you? As that’s a question many men surely want the answer to, here are some tricks and tips from those who know best to ensure your next “O” is positively mind blowing:
7 Ways to Have Stronger, More Pleasurable, and Intense Orgasms
1. Remember to Breathe More
Most people — men and women alike — have a tendency to hold their breath while they’re orgasming. It makes the release (of the orgasm and your breath) feel a little more intense … or so it seems. In actuality, if you can learn how to control your breath and focus on it, you’ll experience heightened, more intense sensations.
“Holding your breath stops the depth and intensity of orgasm that can be enhanced and even magnified through breathing slowly and deeply,” says Nelson. “As soon as you feel yourself climaxing, remember to take a deep breath from the belly and inhale deeply to the count of four and exhale slowly out the mouth to the count of four, and let your breath ride through the wave of orgasm. This breath work will help expand the feelings of orgasm and circulate that satisfaction throughout the entire body.”
2. Don’t Be Afraid to Experiment
You may be a little shy and hesitant to dabble with some backdoor play, but opening your boundaries and limits may strengthen your orgasm even more.
“It’s not just about stroking the penis, it’s about building arousal and pleasure sensation,” explains Nelson. “You and your partner can start by touching, licking, biting the nipples, thighs, belly, and the entire penis, from the base, up to the shaft and tip, the perineum and scrotum. This helps to expand the boundaries or routine of sex to include new and blended level of bliss.”
3. Try a Cock Ring or Ball Stretcher
While trying all of the candid advice from sex experts will definitely help you maximize your performance, simply using your body parts will only get you so far. It’s not that you can’t achieve a killer experience with your partner’s hands, body and mouth, but when paired with toys that are built for one purpose, it’s hard to put into words the pleasure you’ll feel.
“There are cock rings that have attachments that will vibrate on the balls leaving his hands free to do other things,” says sex expert Sienna Sinclaire. “Or you can try a ball stretcher. Sounds scary than it is and usually found in the fetish departments. But the thing is you can attach this device to your balls with as many weights as you want and it will pull your balls for you while you work your cock.”
Below, we’ve got some fun gadgets to consider, especially if you’re in the market for the best sex of your life (and who isn’t?):
Spiral Ball Strét-Ch’Er
If you’ve ever had an adventurous partner who gave your balls a little tug when going down on you, you’re aware of how that slight sensation can be a major turn on. If you’d like to take it to the next level (along with your pleasure), consider purchasing a ball stretcher. Though the name sort-of speaks for itself, it’s good to know that you should be careful and timid with this device at the start, especially since any mishap below the belt can be extremely painful.
Vibrating Cock Ring (Assorted Colors)
Dig a good vibe while your girl is riding you? Try this cock ring with a replaceable battery (and feel free to use it all the time).
Screaming O RingO
If you’re on the brave side (or are looking for a different sensation), opt for this tighter one that temporarily cuts blood flow.
4. Stop and Start Again
“Men can sometimes go from erection to ejaculation really quickly and rush through it,” states Nelson, “but it’s important to slow down and pay attention to their arousal and sexual energy.”
How do you do that? She suggested tuning into each of the sensations you are feeling, trying not to give into feeling horny while you’re still working on getting turned on.
“Try prolonging the feeling of arousal and masturbate or thrust until you feel the sexual energy build and then stop,” she adds. “Start to squeeze the tip or base of the penis until you feel the urge to come subside. Try this method three to four times while self-pleasuring or during sex as this will increase and sustain that delicious feeling of pleasure, and overall sexual stamina.”
5. Try a Penis Pump
“A lot of men have trouble with maintaining erections, or they’re just not happy with the size of it,” notes Sinclaire. “Penis pumps are a great way of literally pumping yourself up before sex, and when used in conjunction with a cock ring, they can make you last way longer than you normally would.”
High Vacuum Man’s Penis Pump with Powerful Suction for Maximum Width with Easy Grip Pump Handle
Caution is your best friend with any sort of a penis pump. And while it might temporarily help the size of your shaft to grow, courtesy of a cutoff to your circulation, it’s not a long-term solution if you’re unsatisfied with your length or girth. That being said, a penis pump can be a fun experiment for you and your partner that provides a different feeling than traditional sex. Being a step further than a masturbation sleeve, use plenty of lube to take this toy for a ride.
6. Get Out Of Your Head
Both Sinclaire and Nelson believe the key with male orgasm is to let yourself go with the moment, and if you find your mind trailing off, you won’t always get the best experience with your orgasms as you could. While you might be able to ‘finish,’ if you’re really looking for an explosive experience that takes you (and your partner) to the next level, exploring toys like the ones below might be the ticket that opens your mind and your sexual liberties to a place you’ve never been before.