Even if you’ve never seen When Harry Met Sally , all you need to hear are those four words and an image of Meg Ryan in Katz’s Deli – also known as the ‘fake orgasm scene’ – springs to mind.
G-spots , the female orgasm: How women enjoy sex (or not) is a topic frequently speculated on, studied, scrutinised – and depicted in a certain way.
Which, let’s face it, is often as ‘head thrown back, having the time of her life, making some noise and probably in matching underwear’.
It’s the ‘noise’ part – or how vocal a person is – which has recently become the subject of a study.
Basically, are “copulatory vocalisations” the sign of a good time?
Or, as Meg Ryan was trying to prove, has being vocal become an easy way to dupe men?
We all remember this bit (Photo: MGM)
Sadly, it seems like there may be something to the latter.
“There isn’t a lot of research in this area,” said Kristen Mark, a sexuality researcher at Indiana University told CNN , “but we’re bombarded with images through mainstream media that tell us moaning is associated with orgasm and sexual pleasure.
“So it would be a fairly wise faking strategy to moan since men already tend to associate moaning with orgasm.”
And again (Photo: Rex)
But just because some women go down this route, does this mean it’s impossible for loud moaning to be a sign of genuine enjoyment?
If a recent study is to be believed, then the answer is “probably.”
In 2011, Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin Hendrie of the University of Leeds published their research on the topic.
Is there a correlation between loud sex and good sex? (Photo: Getty)
It’s official name, as mentioned above is “copulatory vocalization” and the findings appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior .
71 sexually active heterosexual women aged between 18 and 48 were asked questions about making noise during sex.
While many of the women admitted to being vocal, the majority revealed it was not as an indication of pleasure.
It may be more about encouragement than anything else (Photo: Getty)
Instead, 66 per cent of the women said they did this to spur on their partner to climax and bring things to an end. And 87 per cent explained their motivation was to boost their partner’s self-esteem.
As the study unfolds, the odds of a woman having a loud orgasm because of penetrative sex decrease.
“While female orgasms were most commonly experienced during foreplay, copulatory vocalizations were reported to be made most often before and simultaneously with male ejaculation,” the researchers wrote.
Baboons are also known to “fake it” slightly (Photo: Getty Images)
The participants also admitted they made noise “to relieve boredom, fatigue and pain/discomfort during sex.”
Of course, no one in the long run benefits from faking it, but women are by no means alone – female macaques and baboons have also been found to do this.