Taken? Watch Out, She Wants You
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Why Do Single Women Like Taken Men?
Here’s the scenario: You’ve been single for a while and no matter how you try to woo the ladies, your suave pickup lines and quips bear no fruit. Then, one evening when your dignity has all but bottomed out, you make out with a stunner and soon find yourself in a new relationship. Things progress beautifully, and as they do, you notice that you’re getting an abnormally high number of bicep-squeezes, do-me eyes and knee-slapping laughs from attractive women who aren’t yours to bring home. In an unlikely turn of events, it seems that your success with one woman has made you successful with all women. So what gives?
Like a moth to a flame, single women are drawn to a man in a relationship. It’s a fascinating coincidence — one that is frustrating and unfair for the newly tied-down gentleman. Just when the goin’ gets good, he’s not allowed to get. Nevertheless, the reasoning behind this phenomenon will help you be a better man, whether you’re single or taken.
Women want what’s off limits
In the Garden of Eden, Eve sinks her teeth into the one piece of fruit that God instructed her to avoid — so began a long line of women who wanted, oh so badly, what they could not have. We see the same trend continue today with women staring longingly at designer shoes, fawning over limited-edition jewellery and above all, chasing after already spoken-for men. Be it human or handbag, the more tantalisingly out of reach it is, the more appealing it becomes.
Women think taken men are safe
Women, at least those in good stead with the girlfriend, have the green light to pick the brain of a taken man. They can discuss their romantic strategies, seek advice and flirt without fear of repercussion. A guy who is off the market is, after all, harmless. We know how this film ends though. Before long, she has fallen for him. Her infatuation comes to light in a moment of devastating clarity. When she’s not supposed to, she far outdoes the girlfriend (“Box seats for the Manchester Derby — you shouldn’t have!”), at which point the gig is up. Low and behold, the safety of his relationship status is what lured her in all along.
Women hear good things about taken men
Significant others are a reflection of the people they date. That’s why it’s in a girl’s best interest to act like her boyfriend’s PR rep: to mention whenever possible that he studied at Cambridge — oh, and he plays in a band. When she boasts, her listeners see him through the rose-coloured glasses that she wears. By the time she gets to the part about his volunteer firefighting, it’s obvious that he’s quite the catch and consequently, she’s his female equivalent. Unfortunately, the girls, now in agreement, want to steal her title away.
Women think that taken men don’t have ulterior motives
Too many women have gotten past the clamour of insincere compliments, kind gestures and sweet nothings only to find a broken record playing at a single man’s core. It repeats, “get some.” Thus, the most well-intentioned actions of single men still have women scrutinising between the lines. Men who are in a relationship (and respectful of that commitment) don’t use women as a means to an end. Once they settle into something serious, their behaviour undergoes purification and the selfish sexual intentions are removed. In turn, women lower their guard.
Women like what is popular
This one is fairly straightforward. Girls want what other girls have. To women, the simple fact that a guy is someone’s favourite flavour makes him worth a try. A guy in a relationship is wanted by at least one person — the girl on his arm, who confirms that he has been tested and approved as boyfriend material — and therefore attracts the buzz of many others.
More reasons why single women want you now that you’re taken after the jump…