Page 1 of 2
Erotic capital, as described by sociologist Catherine Hakim of the London School of Economics in her 2010 paper on the subject, consists of a collection of attributes including physical fitness, good grooming, superior social skills, and sex appeal. When taken together, these qualities form a powerful personal asset. Of course, the more of each element of erotic capital you possess, the higher your overall erotic net worth. To date, however, this concept has largely been written about in relation to women, though men are equal proprietors of erotic capital.
We all know men with a high erotic net worth: George Clooney, Justin Timberlake, David Tennant, Barack Obama, Nick Clegg, and Robbie Williams come to mind. Gordon Brown does not. What makes erotic capital a big deal is that the greater your erotic net worth, the more financial success you’ll have and the more social and dating advantages will come your way. To figure out what your erotic net worth is and how you can increase it to your advantage, read on.
You don’t have to look like a movie star to have sex appeal. What you do need is the right body language, a healthy dose of confidence, a talent for flirting, and an amazing aftershave. Whereas closed body language, typified by crossing your arms across your chest, keeping your hands in your pockets and slouching, gives off the impression that you are a defensive person; open body language shows that you’re comfortable with yourself.
For men, facing others head-on with your spine erect, your head held high and your feet about a foot apart conveys a dominant, self-assured, in-control attitude, which is a huge turn-on for women. And because women are programmed to pay attention to smell when selecting a mate, you should also choose your fragrance wisely, doing your best to track down the juice that complements your natural body odour. Use humour to flirt and learn to read female body language — if she looks at you, then looks away, then looks at you again, she’s interested.
Even if right now you feel extremely nervous in interpersonal interactions, it’s possible to turn your social anxiety around and become the guy in the room that everyone gravitates toward. Men with a high erotic net worth are charming, persuasive, playful, witty, polite, and good conversationalists. To become adept at socialising, read voraciously and stay on top of current events as well as what’s hot in film, television, business, and technology. If you’re crunched for time, seek out good all-purpose websites like the BBC. At the same time, recognise that being the most interesting man at the party doesn’t always involve dominating the conversation.
Making others feel at ease is often as simple as projecting a sense of calm and asking open-ended questions (those that don’t involve simply a “yes” or “no” answer) to encourage others to talk. In fact, because most people love to talk about themselves, showing an interest in others and listening attentively with steady eye-contact will trick them into finding you fascinating even if you reveal relatively little about yourself. Also, don’t take yourself too seriously, as the capacity to laugh at yourself and take life’s mishaps in stride shows self-confidence, which is infinitely more appealing than being uptight.
Having a high erotic net worth is practically synonymous with being in shape. A sexy body indicates virility and vigour, which in women’s minds translates into stamina and dynamite sack sessions. What you’re aiming for is a V-shaped physique, which you can achieve through a combination of weight lifting and cardio.
If you’re presently overweight and finding it difficult to motivate yourself to hit the gym, consider that obese people earn 10% to 15% less than average-size people. The right clothes will also go a long way toward creating the illusion of a perfect body, so favour V-neck tops over crewnecks and single-breasted blazers. Studies also suggest that taller men earn more, so give yourself a height advantage with shoes that have a half-inch heel.
Read on for more ways to increase your erotic capital…