5 Early Warning Signs Your Relationship Is In Trouble
Wouldn’t it be nice to know, before going into a relationship, if things were guaranteed to run smoothly? That you’d hold hands and skip in the park with each other’s families and that you’d be so comfortable that peeing with the door open was positively welcomed?
Sadly relationships aren’t born in Pleastantville – and there’s no augmented reality app available for your smartphone that you could simply hold up in a public area to clearly label relationships either “doomed” or “guaranteed to succeed” in neon graphics. But there are some warning signs your relationship is in trouble.
Enter Renachantel McClain, a licensed psychotherapist who works with couples on rebuilding relationships after infidelity. “The best advice I would give couples is to sit down and talk to their partner if any of these signs are present and you have concerns,” she recommends. If you or she’s losing interest or eyes are starting to wander, these are the early signs it’s not going to work out, and even an an affair may be in the works.
1. Using Nicknames Instead Of Your Actual Name
“This could be a way to avoid slipping up and calling you someone else’s name,” McClain says. We all say some very stupid things, and this is never truer than when we’re either having sex, or are engaged in a conversation we don’t much care for. So with that, the cheating partner might choose to manufacture a nickname to make sure such slip-ups won’t happen.
2. Preferring Texting To Conversation
Texting is fairly impersonal and can be done while doing many things – like when going to the bathroom (don’t kid yourself, we all do it). This impersonal form of communication could mean that while she’s texting you, she’s in someone else’s company. “When you’re texting back and forth but your calls go directly to voicemail, she could be with somebody and doesn’t want them to know she’s communicating with you,” McClain says. Likewise, she doesn’t want you to know she’s communicating with them.
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3. Putting More Effort Into Appearance
If one of you is suddenly altering your looks drastically, it could be a sign that they’re eager to get back on the market. Though they might just be trying to take it up a notch for your sake, McClain insists drastic changes in wardrobe, hairstyle, and physique could indicate that one partner is trying to impress somebody outside of the relationship.
4. Suddenly Needing Condoms
There’s a good chance your partner hasn’t suddenly picked up on watching Teen Mom, 16 and Pregnant, or some other MTV reality show that makes motherhood look absolutely terrifying. So if they’re suddenly opting to use condoms when you normally don’t (assuming you’re in a trusted relationship) this may be a sign that they’re seeking some sexual attention outside the confines of your relationship.
5. Becoming More Involved With Social Media
Social media is a great way for singles to scope out talent. A study on the popular dating app Tinder discovered that 40% of its users aren’t single and that three in 10 users are actually married (shock). So if your partner has never been much of a social media user, but has recently picked up on social media trends, they could be starting the process of looking, McClain states. This kind of flirting is usually done by liking another person’s images, sending instant messages (which can easily be deleted later), and hiding apps like Tinder within inconspicuously named smartphone folders such as “Games” or “Work”. Big red flag.