We all have our kinks. Some are relatively mild (say, foot fetishes) whereas some are more extreme (say, blood play). Sounding—specifically, urethral sounding—definitely falls on the more extreme end of the spectrum.
Urethral sounding? What’s that?
Urethral sounding involves inserting a sound—a long, thin rod, typically made of surgical steel—into your urethral opening. Yes, we’re talking about the pee hole. Sounding isn’t actually exclusive to penis-owners; people with vaginas can experience sounding, however, the technique is different since (obviously) penises and vaginas are shaped differently. Nevertheless, the sounding kink seems to be more popular among penis-owners.
According to Healthline, sounding began as a medical procedure to clear blockages in the urethra. Today, urologists will still “sound” a patient if they have a urethral stricture (a blockage or closing of the urethra).
In a sexual or kink setting, men aren’t getting sounded to open up blockage. They’re getting sounded because it feels good. The urethra actually has a lot of nerve endings that can amount in intense pleasure when stimulated properly. If the sound goes deep enough, it can even stimulate the prostate, which is commonly referred to as the “P-spot” or “male G-spot”. That’s when it reportedly feels really good. (In case your male anatomy knowledge needs a refresher, the urethra crosses through the prostate gland on its way to the bladder. This area is called the prostatic urethra.)
There are a lot of misconceptions when it comes to sounding. “Most people think that it’s painful, but it’s not—if you know what you’re doing,” explains Cory B., kink coach and sex educator who’s sounded men about 10 times. “It doesn’t have to be something that’s masochistic or necessarily ‘kinky’ either, and I’ve actually done some really tender sounding scenes.” (In a kink setting, a “scene” is any sexual activity where all parties have discussed prior what they want and don’t want to do.)
What are the risks of sounding?
There are, of course, some risks to sounding, including bacterial infection if the rod isn’t properly sterilized. Other dangers including tearing or even puncturing the tissue in your urethra, which can cause permanent damage. (A sound made from shatterproof material is a must. Check out the video resources on kinkacademy.com to learn more about sounding-related safety.)
We reached out to a few men who are into sounding to gain a better understanding of how a guy finds himself inserting a rod into his penis—along with how, exactly, this foreign sensation feels.
Here’s who you’ll hear from:
Tony*, 54, sounded around 100 times.Alex*, 55, sounded three times.Jacques, 42, sounded about 20 times.
Where did you learn about sounding?
Tony: To be honest, I’m not really sure where I first heard about sounding. Being into BDSM and fetish since my mid-teens, that was the porn that I gravitated to, so it was probably on a website somewhere.
Alex: I got into kink about six years ago. Started slow and relatively “vanilla” until about three years ago, when things started to escalate, but there was an increasingly long list of activities that made absolutely no sense to me. Sounding was one of them.
Why did you decide to try it?
Tony: I’ve always been very interested in experiencing different fetishes and sexual activities. It was something I had seen; it looked interesting so I wanted to try it. I had just done a scene with a dominatrix named Mz. Berlin. I knew that she had quite a bit of experience with sounding, so after the scene, I asked her if she would be willing to sound me, and she said yes.
Alex: I’m currently owned by a dominatrix [meaning Alex is a submissive in a BDSM relationship where he has to do whatever his owner, a dominatrix, asks of him]. One day we were discussing what our next session should include, and I told her that she should do whatever she loves. She said, “I love to sound men.” I looked it up. I was as horrified when I Googled it.
Jacques: The first time I was sounded by my wife—the woman we were playing with showed her how. I was blindfolded because they say seeing it can shock some men, but now I prefer to watch.
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Were you afraid the first time?
Tony: No. Berlin was a very experienced player. I knew that she knew what she was doing, and we were just doing it after our scene, so everything felt very casual and relaxed.
Alex: You bet your ass I was afraid. I wasn’t afraid of the sensation, as much as I was afraid that I would do some permanent damage.
Jacques: I was quite scared at first.
What is it that you like about sounding?
Tony: I like the intimacy of it. I like the expression on a woman’s face the first time she sees my cock swallow a shiny steel rod. And I like the challenge of it—how big can I go?
Alex: Nothing in particular about the actual sensation. It’s actually pretty mellow and subtle compared to other sensations. It felt itchy to me when it was hooked up to the TENS [an electrical nerve stimulation unit]. In terms of the psychological experience, I like giving myself to my domme. I like the role reversal of her fucking me. She’s sticking something in me instead of me putting my penis in her.
Jacques: I love the sensation inside the urethra. These nerves never get touched and it feels like a soft orgasmic buzzing deep inside. If it hits the prostate, it is especially pleasurable, and I orgasm from it. No ejaculation though. I also love the attention on my cock.
What does it feel like?
Tony: Done right it feels like what I imagine fucking feels like to a woman—feeling the shaft go in and out.
Alex: For me, it’s not that intense a physical sensation. Not sure if other people experience it differently. It’s a bit like having your penis stroked, but only from the inside.
Jacques: It’s not painful, but weirdly pleasurable. Some tips though: Don’t panic once it’s inside, even if you’re freaked out. Stay calm and do everything slowly.
Anything else on the topic you’d like to add?
Tony: Don’t be afraid of it. If it’s something that you would like to try, go for it! Find a professional dominatrix or a player who is experienced in it and experience it for yourself. Most of all, have fun with it!
Alex: Part of BDSM for me is seeking wild sensations that will stop the overly-analytical part of my mind from over-thinking. I’m searching for the kink-equivalent of a “zen slap.” One of the highest goals for a submissive is to enter “sub-space,” where you exist without an ego, and are present in the moment entirely. It’s fabulous. It’s spiritual. It’s transcendent. Sounding is one possible contributor to achieving sub-space.
*indicates name was changed to protect anonymity.
Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based writer, speaker, and activist whose work focuses on lifestyle, sexuality, culture, and entertainment.
Source: Mens Health