Sex is great and all, but have you ever looked up a new position (or 12) as a fun lil’ bedroom experiment? Admittedly, it can sound homework-y to “study” up moves, but TBH, this is the most exciting assignment you could ever work on. Like, just when you think you’ve nailed cowgirl or doggy, one little leg shift or additional sex toy can catapult you into the fastest orgasm of your life.
Rest assured, whatever sex mood you’re in RN, there is probably something in here for you. So, here you go!
Positions if You Wanna Be LOUD
If being loud feels weird or kinda porn-y (ohyeahohyeahohyeah) but you still want to give it a try, start with phone sex. Make it audio-only, so your senses will be more attuned to each moan and sigh. (Plus, it’s waaay easier to be uninhibited from afar.) Start touching yourselves and talk or moan or…whatever. Don’t think about what noises you’re going to make—just let them sort of arise from what you’re feeling. Real, honest sounds of desire will turn you and your partner on even more.
The Coming Attraction
Harness the mysterious appeal of ASMR, if you’re into that. Slowly strip down, whispering softly in your partner’s ear what you’re going to do next. Do the same as you undress them, telling them how you are going to touch/kiss/lick them. Gently stroke their cheeks or lips too—hands touching the face also triggers the response. End on their lap for a slow face-to-face grind.
The Total Banger
If you’re worried someone might hear you, put a moan-hiding playlist on. What you play is gonna influence the kind of sex you have too, and timing thrusts to a particularly upbeat song can feel extra EPIC.
Positions for Exploring Your Dominant Side
The Sex Doll
Lie your partner on their back and use them as your personal pleasure palace. Hump their leg, use their hand as a masturbation device, sit on their face (more of a hover than an actual sit). Make it a little more torturous by occasionally brushing a hand or a warm mouth on or near their groin. Once you’ve had all the pleasure you can handle, let them finish themselves off.
If you would like to take control but don’t want to go full-on dungeon master, try directing the action. “Kiss my neck.” “I want your mouth on my _____.” “Don’t stop _____!” Every (good) partner wants to know the best ways to please you, and this is basically a master class.
The Pushed Button
Get your partner on their knees and fill your hands with lube. Use a flat hand to slide over their genitals; with the other hand, slide a lubey finger into their butt (just don’t mix up your hands or it can lead to a bacterial infection.) If your partner’s not into full penetration, try gentle circles and pressing around their anus.
Positions if You Want to Go Deeper
A Is for Aaaaaaah
To stimulate the spot during a solo sesh, insert a long toy with a slight curve (glass dildos work well) until it’s nestled on the top wall of your V, next to the top of your cervix. See what kind of stimulation you like—Gentle rocking? Pressing?—and you might find yourself lubing up pretty quickly. For most women, A-spot stimulation alone won’t lead to orgasm, but combining it with simultaneous clit stim can lead to an intense blended orgasm.
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The Plan A
A rumbly vibe that does internal/external double duty gives you the deep, subtler feels of pressing against the A-spot with the more reliable high of clit stim. You or your partner slide a lubed-up toy from the A-spot to the area just above the opening of the vagina and below the clitoris, then back again. Repeat till all hell breaks loose.
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A-spot stim is great for foreplay because of the prodigious lube factor. Take advantage of the physical and psychological benefits of being extra wet with a crab-crawl-like woman-on-top position where both of you can see and feel just how good it is. Lean back, rocking back and forth and angling yourself as you go to find your best A-spot access.
Positions to Get You Out of a Dry Spell
The Cheat Seat
Straddle your partner while they sit down on a straight-backed chair and get pumpin. You can put your feet on the floor for extra leverage and grab ahold of the chair back for support when your thighs get tired. The secret sauce that makes this position extra hot? Having your partner hold their lubed, cupped hand over your vulva so you get extra clit stimulation with every thrust.
The Thirst Tap
Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or you just haven’t seen each other in a while, you can make it work to your advantage. Buy a new sex toy and tell them exactly how you’d like them to use it on you when you finally do meet up, but don’t tell them what exactly the new toy is. Send lots of sexy pics or sexts beforehand to IRL clickbait them and build the fantasy up, too.
The Mirror, Mirror
Lie on your sides facing each other and mirror each other’s movements. This position is even hotter the slower you go. You can start by teasingly tracing your partner’s lips with your finger and having them do the same. For an even more intimate vibe, you can both break out into mutual masturbation with eye contact to make things super hot.
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Safer Sex Positions That Are Hot as Hell
The Double Finger Bang
If you feel yourself getting dry when you have sex with a condom, use this tip: slide two well-lubed fingers in a V-shape to simultaneously stroke yourself and press along the underside of your partner’s penis to give them the sensation of a tighter fit.
The Dam, Girl
ICYMI, you can still get chlamydia, gonorrhea, HPV, herpes, and syphilis from oral sex. Dental dams aka rectangular pieces of plastic you put over your vulva as a barrier between your mouth and genitals, can actually be super sexy if you know this trick. Have the receiver get on their hands and knees, and drape the dam over their vulva and anus. The giver can then get down and dirty with oral and rimming freely. This is also a great toe-in-the-water move for people who want to experiment with rimming.
The Show and Tell
Lie side by side and switch from masturbating each other and touching yourselves. You can show off what you’re into, teach your partner what works for you, and have things stay super hot and sexy with making out and eye contact if you desire.
Sex Positions to Try if Porn is Kinda Ruining Your Life
The Free Ride
If your partner’s reliance on porn is getting to the point that orgasming with an IRL person feels difficult, remember that an orgasm isn’t everything. Sex can be just as enjoyable without an orgasm, so do you and get on top and go crazy. Try new angles, speeds, leg positions, lingerie, and see what helps for getting you to orgasm.
The Teacher’s Pet
If you find your partner is taking too many hints from porn, you can work together to course-correct through a little demonstration. Guide their hands and mouth over you as you like, and make sure to use moans and light direction (positives like “yes,” “there,” “softer,” etc) to steer yourself to bliss.
The Crash Into Me
In a codependent rut with your favorite sex toy? Take a moment to ditch the toys and instead focus on simply enjoying your partner’s body without the pressure of racing to climax. Use this time to make out, kiss each other between the legs, lock in eye contact, and reset your physical connection with one another.
Sex Positions to Try if You Can’t Get Out of Your Head
The Banana Split
If letting someone else see your O-face gives you anxiety, have your partner enter you from behind while you rest on your stomach. Bend your knees against their thighs for deeper penetration and let yourself enjoy your orgasm, worry-free.
The Blindfold Bang
If having all eyes on you isn’t your definition of hot, putting a blindfold on your partner can help appease some of those worries. Not only is it a hot sensory deprivation thing for them, you’ll also feel way more empowered to move around in a way that gets you off.
The Backward Swoon
Prop your hips up on your partner’s legs so it’s almost like they’re wheelbarrowing you with your back on the bed. Have them enter you holding your hips for leverage while you use a vibrator on your clit. You’ve both got a great view, and the angle makes things super intense.
Easier Missionary Positions
While your first instinct in missionary might be to keep your legs open, keep your legs straight down between his and your knees pressed tightly together. You can also angle your butt so you grind up against the top of his shaft for extra clitoral stimulation.
The Buzz Thrill
Get a couple’s sex toy that’s wearable with a flat side so it can fit between you and your partner. The dual stimulation will not only give your clit the focused attention it needs, but the internal vibration will also feel great for your partner.
Flip It Real Good
You get on top in the traditional dude position. Keep your legs between his, and prop yourself up on your hands or elbows. He can control the depth and angle by bending his knees and opening his legs for you.
Straddle your partner’s thigh and grind against it for some much-needed clitoral stimulation. You can add a sex toy into the mix as well. Anything wearable, with a flat edge to fit between you, or even a bullet vibe that you’re comfortable holding in place, will work here.
The Pre Party
Sometimes the concentration required to bring you to orgasm can make it harder to get there. Let yourself relax, and use a toy to get you to the brink of orgasm while your partner kisses your neck and spoons you. When you’re 75 percent there, let your partner take over control of the toy and take you the rest of the way there.
The Rag Doll
Let your body go limp like a rag doll and take long, deep breaths as you approach orgasm. While your first instinct might be to tense up, relax and see if that helps you get there faster.
Blow Job Positions
The Prop Engine
Sandwich a large vibrator between the box springs of your mattress or the frame of your couch. You can grind up against it while on your knees when you’re giving him a BJ.
The Hump and Blow
Straddle a pillow between your legs and hump it while you go down on him in bed. You can also slip one hand under his leg to prop yourself up for stability while using your free hand to touch yourself.
The Yin Yang Edge
Lie sideways in a 69 position and trade off so one person is doing all the receiving at a time. Bring each other to the brink of orgasm and then trade off.
Vibrator Sex Positions
Have your partner spoon you and stimulate your clit using a small bullet vibrator. They’ve got one free hand to touch your breasts, entangle your fingers together, whatever.
The Fly Away With Me
While resting with your back on a pillow, one of your legs around his back, and your foot against his chest, use your free hand to hold the vibe. He can thrust and enjoy the view while you concentrate on your orgasm.
The Give a Dog a Bone
The easiest, hands-free doggy style position out there. Prop your crotch up on a pillow and position a vibrator to hit your clit perfectly as he thrusts. With your hands free, you can grab ahold of the sheets as you writhe around in ecstasy.
Shower Sex Positions
Water Work It
This one’s got something for everyone. While you go down on him, hold a removable shower head between your legs to stimulate your clit. Bonus: the odds of getting water in your eyes are pretty low with this one.
Wet ‘n’ Wild
Ride him in the tub with your hands on his shoulders for stability. You can rub your clit against his body this way while controlling depth. He’s also free to lather up your boobs too, if that’s something you’re into.
The Bent-Over Bather
“But shower sex doesn’t allow for crazier positions!” you say! Then you haven’t tried the Bent-Over Bather. For this one, you’ll want to steady yourself on something sturdy while your guy enters you in standing doggy. The rush of blood to your head is enough to up the ante on anything.
Doggy Style Variations
The Booty Pop
In a rush? Naked? Horny? You’re in luck. Strip down naked and bend over a couch/side of the bed/stool/laundry hamper/whatever, and flash your butt to your dude because why the hell not. Brace yourself as he takes you from behind and don’t forget to look back every so often to admire the curve of your own back.
Give a Dog a Bone
Always wanted to try out spanking but never really been sure how to organically do it? Try this entry-level posish for optimal control. Get on your hands and knees on a bed or a couch — he’s standing. Make sure you discuss limits and safe-words prior to diving in, so you can focus on the pain/pleasure dynamic while you’re in the moment. If you wanna get really into character, you can also incorporate some begging while the spanking is going on.
Don’t Think You’re Ready for This Jelly
It’s called ‘jelly’ because of all the lube you need for anal sex, haha get it? No but seriously, you will need a lot. For anal newbies and veterans alike, this spooning position is great because it allows you the space to relax and ease into it. Plus, no eye-contact! Feel free to make as many weird faces as you want.
The Golden Globes
Do your best Instagram influencer plank and go stiff as a board on top of your partner, squeezing your knees and thighs together to wiggle against them (the added friction is great for clitoral stimulation.) Dangle your boobs over their mouth and see if they can stand the torture.
The Ta-Ta Tease
Ah, ye old classic Titty Fuck of yore. So much more than schoolyard myth, this version lets you have a hand free so that it’ll actually do something for you too. While seated on a couch or elsewhere with your back up (and with copious amounts of lube, because chafing is REAL), have your dude rub himself in between your valley of the shadow of death while you touch yourself. It’s like seeing a Broadway show in a small theatre — every seat has a good view!
Have your guy sit on a chair and straddle him so he can give your boobs the up-close-and-personal attention they so deserve. Sitting in this position gives him the perfect access to lick or suck on your breasts, while you take control of the rhythm of night and bounce to your heart’s desire on his D. Should you have enough breast in the chest to do it, try joining him in on the action and licking yourself too.
It’s Time to Get Pegged
Reverse Doggy Style
If you really wanna roll with the dominatrix dynamic of pegging, this is the way to go. Have your dude get on his elbows and knees in bed with his ass up, while you take him from behind. Brace your ankles against his calves for added stability and enjoy the ride. It’s a great view and if you get off on power, this is one of the hottest positions out there.
Lie on your bed with your head propped up on a pillow (yes, you DO deserve this view, girl) while your guy straddles your legs facing away from you, propping himself up on his elbows. He can control the speed at which he takes your strap-on, and keep a hand free to play with himself.
Chairman of the Board
It’s all about that view baby! Sit in a chair and have your guy straddle you, controlling the depth and speed with which he gets penetrated. This is great for beginners because it puts him in the drivers’ seat, while you get primo access to jerk him off from the front and/or nuzzle him with kisses. Either or.
Oral Sex Things He Needs to Learn ASAP
All Hail the Queen
Sitting on your dude’s face has got to be one of the sexiest and most empowering things you can do. Of course, you’re not supposed to actually sit-sit on his whole face, but instead to straddle his head and lower yourself and adjust to whatever suits your taste. You can prop yourself up on your arms if you get tired, or work those thighs while grinding up and down his face while he moves your butt.
The Leg Up
Lay on the side of your bed on your back with one leg up and one leg down while your guy goes to town on you while kneeling against the bed. This position leaves you wide open and frees up your dude’s neck muscles from getting a cramp so he can keep doing that thing you like even longer.
Doggy Goes Oral
Get on your knees and elbows while your dude eats you out from behind. If you need some extra assistance, slip a hand down below and play with yourself, and prop yourself up on some pillows. You can grind up against your partner’s face and dip your body as you please to control the angle. If you’re feeling extra adventurous, you can also have your partner eat your ass from this position too. Hey, just a suggestion.
BJ Positions You’ll Both Love
The Mouth Off
Lie with your head nearly dangling off the edge of the bed and touch yourself while taking your guy in your mouth. While this is not a move for beginners, submissive folks will certainly enjoy the power play of surrendering control. Plus, that rush of blood to the head is definitely something fun.
Open Wide and Say “Ahhhh”
Consider this a sexier version of the classic 69. Have your dude lie on his back while you straddle him and give him an upside down beej. Stick your booty up and out so he can use your favorite toy or his fingers to bring you to completion, all while enjoying the sexy front-row view.
The Auto Blow
Similar to the Mouth Off, prop your head on some pillows with your guy kneeling behind you and take him into your mouth. You can use your hands to touch yourself, or keep them on his shaft to stay in control of the pacing and angle.
So, You Want to Have a Threesome
The 69, Plus One
It’s like a pinwheel of dick! For this position, you’ll want to all get on your sides and form a circle so you’re all giving and receiving. If you feel like not enough attention is being paid to you, you can also have the guy who’s supposed to be going down on you, use a vibrator or his fingers instead.
The Happy Cuckold
Sit against your main guy’s chest and dangle your legs over the butt of your third partner while he enters you. Your main guy gets a helluva view and the close contact is a huge turn on for you too.
The Double Blind Bind
Make sure you’ve really established all your boundaries and safe words before trying this one, because it does take a certain level of trust to pull off. For this, put on a blindfold and have one of your partners tie your knees to your wrist (gently, and with slack to rock around and still enjoy a reasonable range of motion). Have them take turns entering and going down on you and guess who’s doing what based on their touch and sounds alone. And if the idea of being tied up and blindfolded is too much, it also works if you just close your eyes.
Get Down With Yourself for Some Solo Sex
The Long Way Around
Trying to spice it up a bit? Try masturbating while face down and reaching your hands around the back and through your legs. If you need an extra boost, throw a pillow under your hips for added oomph.
The Slip and Slide
If you’re lucky enough to have unfettered access to a pool or hot tub with jets, try saddling up next to the jets so the running water hits your bits in all the right places. Just make sure you’re alone first!
Pop a squat on a suction cup dildo affixed to the surface of your choice and go to down. Even if you don’t orgasm from penetration, that doesn’t mean it can’t still feel AMAZING. Plus, for the normally shy, this lets you act out all your wild sex fantasies without an audience — for now.
Sex Positions for Ladies Who Like Ladies
The Breast Enhancement
Have your partner lean against a pillow with her legs open while you kneel in between them. Then, lean in so only your nipples are touching and rub her clit with your hand or a vibrator. Tease her by pausing from time to time to kiss her breasts or nipples.
You might have to test drive all the chairs in your household to find a low one that allows you to reach the ground and support yourself before diving into this one, but when you do, it’ll be worth it. Have your partner sit on said chair while you kneel with your ass in her face, straddling her. Bend so your booty is in the air and prop your hands up on the ground for extra support while she goes to town on you. The rush of blood to the head will make it all worth it.
The Strap-on Sizzle
If you have a strap-on and a dildo, this is a great classic take on missionary. Enter her, making sure your nipples brush up against each other with every thrust. If you’re both comfortable with it too, this is a great position to try while one of you has her arms tied up above her head too.