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It’s official: Tiger and Elin are now divorced. Which frees Tiger up to go crazy in Vegas – without all the nagging guilt this time. But he may find that approaching women as a single man, rather than as a cheating husband, is a whole different game.
The first steps back in the world of dating should not to be taken lightly. You shouldn’t attempt to bed new women to take revenge on your ex, whether your aim is to lure her back with jealousy or you think this will help you get over her. You should do it because you’re a single guy and that’s what single guys do.
It goes without saying that you have to be completely over your ex before you get back into the game. Women will immediately pick up on it if you’re using them to distract yourself or numb the pain. Exactly how long it will take to reach this stage varies: Some will find themselves cruising around the local pickup spots the very next weekend, while others may find it takes months before they can even look at another woman.
No matter what, it’s worth the wait, because the single life rules.
Cheer up then gear up
Immediately after the breakup, you’re going to be miserable. Somehow you’ll be bringing every conversation around to her, you’ll find yourself planning how to get her back and generally lamenting the fact that everyone else is happy while you are in hell.
Approaching other women with all this going on is definitely a bad idea. Women can smell depression and desperation a mile off, and the scent is not appealing to them. You might think a one-night stand or even a new relationship is a good way to get over her, but the inevitable rejection will batter your confidence and make you feel 10 times worse.
Instead of dwelling on your ex and the relationship, remember the good side of being single: all those late nights with the boys, the freedom to do what you want when you want and, most importantly, with whom you want. When you stop thinking that there’s something missing from your life and start to relish the idea of being single, then it’s time to start bedding other women.
If you’re honest, you’ll admit that there were times when you were with your ex that you envied those who were single. Well, start smiling again, because now you’re one of them…
Take a look around
It’s time to celebrate. You’ve mourned the death of your relationship and now you need to toast the birth of the single you. What is called for is a one-night tour of everything you’ve been missing while you were in the relationship.
Gather your friends. After listening to your moaning, they’ll be almost as eager as you are for a big night out. Explain that, in one night, you aim to seek out everything that you couldn’t do before. Take in a bar crawl, drop a few bets on the dogs and enjoy a strip club or two.
Get back in the game with these tips for meeting women in bars and other places…