Two of the top questions I get asked as a sex educator are: “Does the G-spot really exit?” “How do I find my G-spot?”
YES, it does exist. You just have to know how to find it!
Keep in mind that everyone is different, and not one body is built the same way because each of us have sensitive nerve endings in different places.
The G-spot, or Gräfenberg Spot (named after the German gynecologist who first “discovered” it), is a bean shaped area (a system of glands & ducts) inside the vagina toward the vaginal wall (picture the location of your belly button). However, when aroused it can become the size of a walnut.
What IS The G-spot, Actually?
It’s an area of spongy erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra.
What Does It Feel Like?
When the G-spot is aroused, it feels bumpy and is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall. Why? The G-spot is composed of erectile tissue, which means it swells up when blood rushes to it.
Let’s try an experiment: Take your tongue and touch the roof of your mouth. How does that feel? Does it feel bumpy? Your G-spot will also feel bumpy — like the roof of your mouth— whenit is aroused.
How Do You Find The G-spot?
First and foremost, the G-spot is easiest to locate when you are very aroused.
Why is arousal important? When the tissue is swollen it makes the area firmer than the rest of the surrounding vaginal wall. Now that you are very aroused, you can find the G-spot about 2 to 3 inches inside the upper vaginal wall. Some women find it easier to have someone else locate their G-spot.
To locate your G-spot, lay on your back and use personal lubricant on your index or middle finger. Insert your finger into the vagina as far as it will easily go and run your finger along the top wall of the vagina.
Feel for an area that feels different from the rest of the tissue. If you find that spot, make a “come hither” motion and curl your fingers upward so that your fingers are pressing toward your belly button.
Because of the G-spot’s tricky location, it might be easier to find it using special G-spot sex toys.
It’s important to note that for some women G-spot stimulation can take around 20 minutes. That’s a long time (and why a sex toy or G-spot vibrator would come in handy)! It’s equally important to note that some women require firm and constant pressure on their G-spot in order to be stimulated.
Is A G-spot Orgasm More Powerful Than A Clitoral Orgasm?
Again, that depends on YOU! For some women it is and for some women it’s the same. In fact, some medical professionals doubt whether the anatomical structure corresponds to an orgasm or whether the stimulation affects other sensitive areas of a woman.
When the tissue is stimulated, the tissue lifts the vaginal wall either triggering sensations around the clitoris or sending its own set of sexual sensations.
Some people believe that the intensity of a woman’s G-spot orgasm is aided by the hormone estrogen. Most women under 30 find clitoral orgasms to be stronger. Due to their high estrogen levels, their vaginal lining is too thick to access the G-spot nerves. As the estrogen levels decline in their 30s, the vaginal lining is thinner and the G-spot is more accessible.
Can The Stimulation Of The G-spot Cause Female Ejaculation?
This G-spot orgasm sometimes produces female ejaculation, which is not the same as “squirting” as you may see in pornography. Women sometimes ejaculate due to the release of fluids from the Skene’s glands at the bottom of the urethra at the point of orgasm.
HELP! I Think I Need To Pee!
When the G-spot is stimulated, some women may initially feel an urge to urinate. This is normal. This feeling goes away once the G-spot is swollen and perhaps a potential orgasm is on its way. (If this sensation makes you nervous, try urinating prior to getting started, and lie on a waterproof blanket.)
HELP! No Matter What I Do, I Can’t Find My G-spot!
Don’t be discouraged if you can’t find it. Some women don’t feel anything while others feel discomfort. Remember what works for someone else might not work for you.
Don’t forget that you might have better luck with a G-spot vibrator or G-Spot dildo. Look for the following when shopping for G-spot sex toys:
- Hard toys, because the G-spot responds to pressure.
- Curved toys, to target the upper vaginal wall.
Now that you know all of the secrets of the G-spot, EXPERIMENT and see what pleasure you can discover!