I’ve found myself in a bit of a pickle and would really value your opinion. I’ve been married for more than 20 years.
Before I got together with my wife, I had a huge crush on a famous blonde 70s singer.
It was more than a crush to be honest – I felt totally in love with her.
My wife knew about this from our first date and has never been bothered by it in the least.
However, two years ago everything changed when a beautiful woman bearing an uncanny resemblance to this singer moved into the house opposite.
As you’d imagine, I was and still am enchanted by her. She’s single, she fancies me like mad and I am sorely tempted to leave my wife.
Three weeks ago, this neighbour and I made love for the first time at her house. It was sensational. I mean, I saw stars.
I’ve never felt that turned on in my life and now I think about her every waking hour.
I’m convinced my wife’s going to find out and I don’t know what to do because she is my best friend. However, this other woman rings my bell.
Please give me some advice. I don’t know what to do.
I hate to break it to you, but you’re just living out your fantasy.
She looks like your ’perfect woman’ but she’s not and your wife will find out – so you do know what to do.
Stop behaving like a teenager and either commit to your marriage or tell your wife it’s over.
But please stop sleeping with your neighbour behind your wife’s back.
I love George Clooney and if a lookalike moved in next store, I might think, “Wow, he really looks like George Clooney”, but that would be it.
I wouldn’t risk my marriage for someone just because they look like someone I fancy off the TV!
If you leave your wife to be with this woman, just remember that you’ll also be losing your lover of 20 years and your best friend.
Imagine how your life will be without your wife in it and think very carefully about your next move.
The thing is, you’ll soon get used to your neighbour’s looks and, if that’s all there is to it, you’ll wake up one day and realise she’s not your dream woman after all.
By then, of course, it’ll be too late to win back your wife.
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