Dear Coleen: I’ve accepted I’m bisexual but I’m terrified to tell my family

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I really want to tell them, but I can’t seem to find the right words to begin the conversation. What do you suggest?

Dear Coleen: I've accepted I'm bisexual but I'm terrified to tell my family
I have recently come out as to my close but it’s a different story when it comes to my family

Dear Coleen

I have recently come out as bisexual to my close friends, and they have been nothing but supportive towards me.

But it’s a different story when it comes to revealing this to my family.

I really want to tell them, but I can’t seem to find the right words to begin the conversation.

What do you suggest? I’m struggling to know what to do, so any advice would be welcome!

Coleen says

It’s always harder to approach family, but you’ve taken a big first step by telling your friends and they’ve been amazing, so you know you’ll have their support whatever your family’s reaction is.

Why not have a good with you when you tell your parents, so there’s someone by your side in the room? Or confide in the family member you feel closest to and they can tell the others. You don’t have to have a big family meeting.

Also, don’t put pressure on to tell them you’re bisexual – there’s no rush unless you’re in a same sex at the moment and want to introduce your partner to your parents.

However, if you feel the time is right, then go for it.

It’s worth getting in touch with an organisation called Families and Friends of and Gay (FFLAG), which supports parents with lesbian, gay and bisexual children.

You can download the booklets How Do I Tell My Parents? and A Guide for Family and Friends – they are free from their website www.fflag.org.uk

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