I’m a 54-year-old virgin and I think I’m going to die as one.
I would love to make more of myself, but I don’t have a lot of money.
It’s my own fault, I suppose. I made a few bad decisions earlier in my life and I’m easily taken in by people.
I feel paranoid just walking down the street.
I’m also on medication and a side-effect is psoriasis on my face, and it’s also caused me to put on a lot of weight.
Have you any advice?
Improving that one thing could instantly make you feel better about yourself.
You don’t have to be rich to pick up some bits of make-up at the chemist or a few items of clothing. Maybe you could ask friends to help you with a bit of a makeover.
Not all of us are brilliant at styling ourselves, but one of your friends might have a flair for it and know how to pick up nice things cheaply.
Weight gain is something else you can tackle positively yourself through being more active.
Exercise is also a brilliant tool for fighting depression and those feel-good hormones you get become pretty addictive – the more you do it, the more you want to do it.
As far as still being a virgin goes, if you felt better about yourself and had more confidence, I don’t think you’d be focusing on that.
I think it’s just another thing to beat yourself up about.