I turn 18 soon and most guys I find attractive presume I’ve had sex, when in reality I’m still a virgin.
This makes me really anxious and I have turned down potential relationships because I don’t want to disappoint them in the bedroom.
What do you think?
I think when you find the right boy and you really like each other, you just need to tell him this is the case when you start to get intimate. “Actually, it’s my first time,” is all you have to say. And, trust me, he won’t be disappointed or put off.
I know you imagine that these boys you know have slept with lots of other girls and that you’ll be rubbish and not know what to do. But that won’t be the case.
These boys will be worried about exactly the same stuff as you are. You can learn together, that’s part of the fun.
It’s good you’re not rushing into sleeping with someone – you certainly shouldn’t feel pressured by friends – but don’t miss out on dating because of it.
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