I have a son who is six months old. The problem is, his dad is a married man. It started out after we developed a crush on each other, then he wanted us to have a child and I stupidly agreed.
Then I fell in love with him and his wife found out about us and was devastated. The issue that’s bugging me now is that while I was away recently he was sleeping with a friend. They’ve claimed it’s all over, but I still feel so hurt and so jealous.
What should I do?
And you like this man because?
He cheated on his wife with you, then talked you into having a baby without promising you anything in return and then slept with someone else as soon as your back was turned. There’s not a lot to love here. And he’s still married!
He’s a player and if you think you can change him, you’re deluding yourself. Can you honestly say you’ll be able to trust him?
I think deep down you know this, but you’ve fallen for him and you have a young baby, so I accept that walking away is not an easy thing to do. However, you have to try to think long-term and imagine what your life will be like with him in it.
Will he ever leave his wife and commit to you? Will he ever be faithful to you? Can you live your life always wondering if he’s cheating on you?
He could still be a good father to his son and he should take responsibility for him, but I don’t think he’ll ever be a good partner to you.
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