I have to make a choice between a friend and my boyfriend and I don’t know which way to go.
My friend is planning to have a weekend get-together with other girlfriends a few days after her birthday.
It so happens my boyfriend’s birthday falls over that same weekend and he has planned a special trip, but only told me about it after my friend had planned her party.
I have to choose between one or the other – I feel like I should be with my boyfriend on his birthday, but I know my friend will be really angry if I choose him over her.
If your friend gets angry then I think she’s out of order.
If my boyfriend had planned a lovely trip for his birthday, I’d go with him.
I understand your friend being disappointed, but she ought to accept it – it’s not like you’re choosing another friend over her.
It’s your boyfriend and it’s his birthday.
Plus, it shouldn’t matter that much to her if she’s going away with a big group of girls – you and her can surely go out together and celebrate her birthday another time?
If she’s genuinely a good friend, she’ll get over it because that’s what friends do.
If she doesn’t, you’ll know you made the right choice!