We are very much connected and have so much chemistry
We were together for seven years and had our ups and downs during that time.
After we’d been together two years we wanted to settle down and talked about marriage, but his family wanted him to wed someone from the same background and religion.
This is where things began to unravel and I eventually left him because he wasn’t prepared to fight for our relationship.
None of my subsequent relationships lasted because I always felt something was missing. My ex and I are very much connected and we have so much chemistry. I realised I couldn’t find that with other guys I met. Nevertheless, I have tried hard to move on.
Meanwhile, my ex moved back home to get married, but still contacts me all the time, which I think is dangerous. I have tried everything, even blocking him, but nothing seems to work. He can’t get over me.
When I push him to give me an answer on why he’s doing it now that he’s married, he won’t respond or evades the question. It seems as if neither of us can move on because of this attachment we have.
What’s your opinion?
Look, if you don’t want someone to get in touch, you can do it, so I don’t think you’re being entirely honest about how you feel. Are you still hoping he’ll ditch his wife, go against his family and move back to live happily ever after with you?
If you were so adamant about moving on, when he got in touch you’d delete the messages immediately or hang up the phone. And, in the end, the penny will drop and he’ll stop trying.
I think what’s keeping you connected to him is the romance of someone wanting you that badly, and the fact that it’s ‘forbidden’ makes it all the more attractive.
The hard facts are, he’s recently married so you have to stop engaging with him and give yourself the opportunity to move on properly.
You’ll never really give another relationship a fighting chance while you’re still in touch with your ex, so you have to be the strong one and cut the communication. Good luck.
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