Tales Of A Serial Singleton: The Cost Of Romance
I’m in no way tight with my money, nor could I possibly be condemned as a flash git either. But despite my fairly paid job, I’m finding the price of dating, rather costly.
They say you’ve got to be in it to win it, so brother, that’s exactly what I’m doing. Still, the hard earned cash-money is not going all that far. Why? Well, I’m a traditional guy so when it comes to the first date, I insist on paying. I know, I know, we are in an age where perhaps I might be excused for expecting costs to be split. However, it’s my belief that it’s a man’s prerogative to take care of the bill. Now, I’ll be entirely honest, I do get a kick from paying, but I’ll also admit to feeling genuine irritation when a date doesn’t even pretend to try and provide a contribution. Hell, even just a shuffle of a handbag would be appreciated to which I’d happily respond with my thankful acknowledgement before insisting it’s on me. Anyway, I digress.
As my good grandfather says, “the art of courting begins with a good stroke of the brush, if you can’t afford the bristled stick, you are unlikely to create a masterpiece.” Whilst Warhol and Hirst may disagree, it’s a fair point. You need money to eat, drink and in most cases, be merry so when it comes to the inaugural meet, for a dude, I think it’s also important to be seen as a provider. I mean, you split the cost with your mates but surely when it comes to the person you wish to romance, you need to show your worth, right? Has a girl ever fallen for a thrifty or frugal guy? Unlikely and if it did, it was most likely a within the confines of a Disney film.
Perhaps my argument is unfounded. I choose to pay so it’s essentially my problem. But let’s break this down. Even if you go dutch at a bar on drinks, and order an even amount, lets say four each, that’s approximately £20-40 (each) right there. Perhaps you go for dinner. A meal at a date-worthy restaurant will cost you about £25-40 and with a decent bottle of wine, potentially dessert and service, you can add on nearly £40 extra.
You do this once or, occasionally even twice a week, that’s easily £100 gone, without variables such as cabs, impulsive shot purchasing and flowers. Factor in the socialising you’ll do with mates in bars to actually try and locate potential dates and suddenly your wallet is being hit for around £600 a month, without even the promise of a second date. You see what I’m saying? Dating ain’t cheap. Still, at least I’m well fed, eh?