Ah, sex toys. As a grown adult, hopefully, you’ve found a few favorite standbys for your personal pleasure chest. But if you typically only use them to go alone, it’s time to consider new possibilities. Sex toys aren’t just for solo play — they can also make partnered adventures even more enthralling. And we’re not just talking about using what you have. Yes, you can grab your fave vibe and bring it to the coupled mix, but there’s a whole market full of toys designed to give both you and your boo pleasure, no jealousy required.
Like most things, the enjoyment of toys is better shared. We focused here on toys that are meant to be used with a partner. From hands-free vibrators to clenched-Kegel dildos, we think these are the best toys to explore with your best bed friend.
So go on. Add a little buzz to your breakfast sex, some daring to your dinnertime denouement. These toys can help.
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A version of this story was published October 2017.
b-Vibe Trio Plug
Since everyone has a butt, this plug can be used on either partner. If vagina owners are partnered with penis owners, this vibrating plug can increase sensation for both partners during penetrative sex.
Jimmyjane Form 3
This toy is designed to stimulate the clitoris, but takes a little explaining — this video helps. Essentially, it’s a vibrator with a thin, flat silicon surface so that your partner can touch, lick or press your clitoris through the thin silicon. You get the benefits of a vibrator and also your partner’s organic touch.
Beginner Bondage Kit
Partners get everything they need to bind, tie, flog, gag and blindfold each other in this beginner’s kit. Just don’t forget your safe word.
Basics Strap-On Harness
Perfect for strap-on sex or pegging, this kit comes with two dildos and a comfortable, adjustable harness. It’s a great way to change up dominance dynamics in the bedroom.
Dame Products Eva II
This toy is designed to tuck underneath the labia and vibrate against the clitoris for hands-free playtime. The brand recommends it for girl-on-top positions and even under harnesses.
This toy works best for couples in which at least one partner has a vagina. The vibrator can be worn during penetrative vaginal sex to stimulate both the G-spot and the clitoris while increasing tightness for the penetrating partner.
It’s also great if you and your partner have to be away from each other — a partner can control the toy via the We-Vibe app.
Je Joue Mio
The crème de la crème of cock rings, this rechargeable toy has five speeds and fits well around most penises or dildos. Penis owners will love the vibration and restriction, and clitoris owners will love the added stimulation during thrusting.
This toy works best for couples in which at least one person has a vagina and both are into penetration. One end of the vibrator is shaped to stimulate the G-spot and clitoris, while the other end can be used to penetrate a partner. It can be paired with a harness if you want, or it can be an intense Kegel exercise.
Jimmyjane Hello Touch
Sure, you’ll look a little like a cyborg, but this simple, genius device turns your fingers into vibrating delights. Either partner can use it for all-over teasing or targeted direct pleasure.