Ah, vacation… something we all look forward to, but rarely get enough of. Whether it’s traveling by yourself (like I do #taycation), opting for a family/friend getaway, or spending some extra days away with your boo, vacays make some of the best memories.
But, can we agree there’s no better vacation than sharing a cozy bungalow with your S.O. at a tropical paradise? I mean, your skin is glistening with Vitamin-D glow, your legs are looking bronzier than ever, and the sex… well, it’s the best sex you’ve ever had.
What is it about vacation sex that’s just so freakin’ hot? Hint: It’s not necessarily because you ate those oysters at your fancy dinner…
“Vacation sex is so sexy because you’re pulled out of your daily routine. You can let go of adult responsibilities and unleash your sexual alter ego,” says sex therapist and pleasure expert, Rachel Allyn, PhD.
Not only do you tend to be more rested, relaxed, and connected to your body, you also get to experience the novelty of a new experience, says Allyn.
Hello, beach, ocean, pool, hammock, hotel bed, bathtub… and literally any other thing we can do the deed on, you think when you check-in to your hotel. The options truly are limitless.
So for your next baecation (we see you, Kylie and Travis), follow these 6 tips to ensure you have the best vacation sex possible.
1. Force yourself to not work.
As someone who is also guilty of checking emails while away, this is so important. “It defeats the purpose of getting the rejuvenation you and your bodies need,” says Allyn. So leave the laptop behind, and think of “doing work” in other, sexier contexts instead.
2. Get reacquainted with your bod.
Oh, hi, remember her? She’s begging to be touched and appreciated. Start by noticing the new sounds, sights, smells, and tastes of your surroundings, as well as the titillating touch of your partner. This will definitely turn you on in a fresh way, and make everything during sex feel so much better.
3. Lube up.
Really. Like water, lube is one of the necessities of life. It just makes everything slip and fit a little (read: A LOT) better. It doesn’t matter how excited you may get Au natural, a few drops of lube can take your vacation sex up to fire levels.
4. Let your stress really go.
It’s easy to become disconnected from your body during sexy time with bae, especially when you have a million different thoughts roaming through that head of yours. But use vacation sex as a time to connect to the sexual pampering you’re experiencing, says Allyn. Vacation is a time when you are—or, should be—the most relaxed, so ease your mind and all expectations and just enjoy every sensation.
5. Don’t count how many times you’ve done it.
Remember, this is vacation…not an all-day fuck festival. While it’s totally fine if it happens to end up being that way (do you!), you two are also there to bond, share new experiences, and grow closer to each other. Go with the flow, and don’t get too hung up on how frequently ya’ll are sexing. Instead, concentrate on how deeply ya’ll are sexing.
6. Try new, playful moves.
This is your time to be as goofy and carefree as you’d like. “Being silly and laughing together not only bonds you, but it’s a fantastic form of foreplay,” says Allyn. Make it a point to get outside your comfort zones and fulfill both of your desires via fantasy or role-playing. You’re away and feeling yo’self, after all! Into the idea of light kink play? Use a towel or your bathing suit strap to tie each other up, suggests Allyn. The limit to sexiness while having vacation sex does not exist!
Taylor Andrews is one of the Sex and Relationships Editors, you can follow her on Instagram here.