That’s why it’s not a bad idea to think about investing in a sex toy that will work for both of you. A couple’s sex toy isn’t just about pleasure — although that’s important, too. It can also make you both more in-tune to each other’s needs.
“Sex toys can generate new conversations with regard to likes, dislikes, desires, fantasies, and boundaries,” says Jessica O’Reilly, Ph.D., host of the Sex With Dr. Jess Podcast. “The mere presence of a toy can get couples talking and laughing.”
Couples sex toys also encourage more openness and playfulness in your sex life, says sex therapist Debra Laino, D.H.S. “Some couples get stuck in boring ruts in the bedroom and because of this they can become complacent with sex,” she says.
Adding a toy to the mix can change that. “Even if your experience with a new toy isn’t a perfect 10, the associated experimentation, anticipation, and positive nervousness can make sex more exciting,” O’Reilly says.
And, of course, using a new toy can help you both discover new pathways to your own pleasure that you didn’t even know you had. If you’re interested in trying out a couple’s sex toy, it can be hard to know where to start. That’s why we consulted sex experts for their top picks. Try one or several of these out to kick your sex life up a notch.
1. WE-VIBE SYNC
“This really does set the standard for couples toys,” O’Reilly says. The Sync uses a vibrator that fits on you and is controlled by your partner via an app that can be used from anywhere. It’s perfect for long business trips when you can’t be together.
2. INFLATABLE POSITION PILLOW
Sure, you probably have your go-to sex positions, but using a sex wedge allows you to mix things up a bit and go even deeper without any crazy acrobatics. “It really inspires new and more comfortable positions in and around the bed,” O’Reilly says. There are several different types of sex wedges out there, but O’Reilly recommends this blow-up version since it’s easily stored away.
3. LELO IDA
The IDA is designed to target her G-spot while causing vibrations that stimulate her clitoris at the same time. You can also use it to target your perineum. A handheld remote lets you take turns controlling the pleasure for each other.
4. SEX STOOL
A great way to mix up your sex positions, the sex stool allows you to hover over your partner without putting a lot of weight on your thighs, Laino says. “It’s fun and unique and you can use this in many different positions,” she adds.
5. MINI WINACHI
This little personal massager is waterproof and it can be used on her clitoris, your testicles, and everyone’s nipples. The bendable head also helps you hit those hard-to-reach places without doing crazy acrobatics. “This is also great to explore where your partner likes to be vibrated,” Laino says.
6. LELO ODEN
A vibrating cock ring has two important roles: It helps give you a stronger, harder erection by stimulating bloodflow to your penis while the vibrating sensations target her clitoris, Laino says. So, everybody wins. The Oden is coated with soft silicone and is fully waterproof, making it great for shower play.