5 Mistakes That Scare Her Off
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There’s someone I know who is confident, sexy and no failure in the bedroom by all accounts. But when it comes to actually dating women, he never manages to get past the first-month barrier. Instead of forming solid relationships, he continually gets dumped at the same point in time. When I polled the women he’s recently dated to discover just what the hell he was doing wrong, I discovered five pertinent mistakes that he — and so many men in his position — continually make. So, in light of helping you to actually have a shot at dating that hot new girl you fancy for more than a nanosecond, here are my top five mistakes men make early on that scare women away.
1- Being too easy to please
The truth is that women love compliments. We adore being told we’re hot, irresistible and look sexy in our new black dress. But throw out too many niceties too early on, laugh at all of our jokes (even when we both know they’re not funny), and always want to do “what she wants to do,” and we’ll begin to think you’re being insincere. We’ll also think that you’re only trying to achieve one thing: to get into our pants. While that probably is your endgame, coming off like you have no opinion or spine instantly turns you into one of two things: the nice guy or the desperate creep — and no woman wants to date either. Instead, make us work for our compliments. We love a challenge just as much as a man does, and compliments go so much further when we feel we’ve actually earned them.
2- Being too focused on sex
We know you have an endgame with us. In fact, we’d be mightily insulted if you didn’t want to sleep with us after the first date. However, if you rush us or push us into a sex guilt-trip, we’re not going to put out; instead, we’re going to start wondering whether you like us for our personality or for our breasts. If you really like a girl and are interested in forming a long-lasting relationship with her, hold off on the pressure. She’ll let you know when she’s ready — and it will probably be sooner than you think. Oh, and once you’ve had sex with her, all bets are not off. Calling your new date at 2am after a big boozy night out with your mates when she has an early start the next day for her Pilates session at 6am is not a good way to act at the beginning of a relationship. In fact, you can bet your box of condoms that if you continue to do so, she’s going to bitch to her girlfriends about you and then think of the best excuse to let you down gently. If this girl is serious about you, then she’ll want a proper boyfriend, not a Friday night casual sex buddy. Booty calling her shows you’re not serious about her and that you view her as a slut — and no girl wants to think of herself as being treated that way.
3- Being possessive too soon
You know what it’s like: You’re sitting at home playing XBox while your hot new girlfriend is still out drinking with a bunch of her male work friends. It’s getting late and since you haven’t heard from her for a couple of hours, you try to get hold of her. But you can’t. So you start obsessively calling, texting and stalking her Facebook page. Unfortunately, she’s not going to think it’s cute; she’s going to think it’s creepy. Wait for her to contact you and then listen and nod politely when she regales to you stories about her crazy antics from the night before. Even if you are growing green with envy over the fact that she was hanging with men other than you, you need to act like she’s entitled to have a life of her own. And if you do this, she’s going to want to spend even more time with you anyway.
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